Thanks All
Your comments are insightful and confirms my suspicious mind - it could not have come from out of the blue and if I engage they won't leave it till it goes somewhere, and I don't think it will be positive for us. I think I'm going to reply that this is a personal matter and I do not wish to discuss it at this moment. I think that way I'm closing the door on any further discussions and perhaps they will be left thinking that we are just not ready yet ...
Curious enough they did want to start writing to our child ... Now that is a bit of a concern
CM